Yep....

So I've been gone for a minute. And this definitely isn't how I expected to return....but it can't be helped. So I was talking to a friend of mine just a minute ago.....he's pretty cool: laid back, funny (hilarious actually), intelligent, sweet, motivated, and, well, cool......anyway, he's always said that he doesn't trust females, and I believed him, but I didn't know just how much he doesn't trust us. After a convo on the love black women have for black men, we started talking about relationships in general (kinda sorta). And I realized just how much he distrusts women.....and I cried (for a couple of reasons). Yeah, a little dramatic, but I can't even describe how shocked I was by how much he's been hurt by women. I was speechless (and we ALL know I like to talk). We tend to have the mindset that men do all the hurting, but sadly, we women are more than capable of hurting men. I always get so frustrated when I learn that the reason why a guy has become a dog is because of a female. First, I'm frustrated that another woman has treated a guy so badly that he doesn't think love or a relationship is even worth the pain. Second, I'm frustrated that it seems like the guy is just giving up. That's the difference between men and women: most women don't give up on love....Oh we SAY we do, but we don't. My friends will remember that from about October 2007 to February 2008, I couldn't stand the thought of the word love. I hated love songs, and even started re-writing a couple of them to say some pretty "interesting" things. But I never really gave up on love. I still hoped that it was all worth it. I still believed that love would come through for me. I wish my friend believed that....The main point of this was to just kinda remind everyone that your actions change people's lives and outlooks.....be careful what you do........